There is a popular saying that goes, "Only God can judge me." Yet I think its rather hypocritical considering how many of us think and act. We judge people on a daily basis, at work, school, and elsewhere. If you're introduced to a friend you immediately judge the person on whether its someone you 'd get along with yourself. If you see a girl in class, you try and guess whether she's the type you'd wife or just another notch on the headboard. If you get a new co-worker, you try and decide if this dude is going to be the stiff upper-lip type or someone who you can switch shifts with. Yet, you expect no one else to judge you but God himself?
If you're going to justify your actions with your past or your current situation, you should be ready to forgive everyone from the dude who cut you off on the interstate to the drunk driver that had a fatal accident with your cousin. If you ask them why they did it, they will have the same sort of excuses you have, so what makes you so different from them? They aren't any different than you. Everyone has the ability to think before they act, and everyone makes mistakes. Everyone can't be forgiven though.
Intentions, and the effect on others is key here in how to judge. If a negative action had little to no effect on others, and was done with good intentions (A mother stealing diapers for a baby) , it shouldn't be judged harshly, and I'd argue at all. Yet if a jealous boyfriend killed his girl's new man, I'd argue the contrary. Not all situations are as easy as this, so discretion is necessary.
I guess what I'm saying is, don't be so quick to hold others to standards that you can't maintain yourself.
Well said. I wish people could just realize they should help themselves to the point where it doesn't hurt anyone else, but I'll quote Guru:
ReplyDelete"Actions have reactions, don`t be quick to judge
You may not know the harships people don`t speak of
It`s best to step back, and observe with couth
For we all must meet our moment of truth"